The Value of Modesty

SolisLet’s talk for a second about “gurus.”

Someone called me a guru a few weeks ago, and when I demurred, they accused me of false modesty.  It threw me off.

There are a lot of charlatans and a-holes in any industry, including the so-called Social Media industry.  But in my experience, the best-known “gurus” in Social Media tend to be self-effacing and mild-mannered.  

This occured to me via a comment I read in a recent post:

Rohit_bhargava_small1“All to often, one of the panelists has a personal agenda of pushing their services, and tends to shout down or talk over everyone else. This happened during a teleseminar for which I signed up mainly to hear Rohit Bhargava, and he only was able to answer a single question because one of the other speakers completely dominated the conversation.”

It doesn’t surprise me that Rohit was crowded out of the conversation.  I’ve met Rohit once or twice and seen him speak.  And I’m pretty friendly with folks like Brian Solis, Chris Brogan, Laura Laura2Fitton, Kami Huyse, David Meerman Scott, Scott Monty, Jason Falls and C.C. Chapman, et al.  You read a list likeBrogan that and you might think, “Wow, that’s a who’s-who of Social Media gurus!”  But, trust me, these are not people who expect to dominate a room. 

These “gurus” are not rich and powerful.  They didn’t graduate from Harvard Business School.  They have incredibly diverse backgrounds.  Many of them simply stumbled into Marketing.  They are regular folks, in the best sense of the term.  They are confident without being egotistical.  These are folks who like to listen.  They are, above all, thoughtful and modest.

That’s why, when they disdain being labeled as “gurus,” you can rest assured that it’s not false modesty.

And that’s why you should listen to them.

UPDATE:  After posting this, I asked the Twitterati whom else they would add to this list of “brilliant but modest” guru-types.  Among those named in the subsequent outpour?

Paul Gillin, Mack Collier, Christopher Penn, Amber Naslund, Shannon Paul, and Beth Harte.  I’d also like to add Dave Fleet, my colleague Doug Haslam, and my friend Kami Huyse.

There are even more mentioned in the Comments of this post, and I recommend you check out ALL of ‘em.

Posted on: January 16, 2009 at 9:19 am By Todd Defren
39 Responses to “The Value of Modesty”

 

Comments
  • Look. When I was fifteen, I moved from Maine where everyone in my small town loved me, to Massachusetts, where everyone thought I was a freak. I had 1 friend, and he’d only be my friend when no one was around. I read science fiction. I gathered up a group of friends (eventually) to play Dungeons and Dragons in my basement. I had the first ever generation Apple Macintosh and we played on BBSs before folks knew what networking was.

    I went from a lab inside a wireless company into the spotlight of social media, and now I probably never have to eat a meal alone anywhere in the world.

    I’m grateful every day for the opportunities that this world has brought me. I’m thankful that if I sneeze, two hundred people bless me (saves on going to church).

    Guru? Not a title for me. I’m a guy. I’m just like everyone else. I pay someone to put my pants on one leg at a time, just like everyone else.

    Great post, Todd. Glad you’re back in the saddle.

  • facu says:

    i guess if you think you´re the best you have nothing else to do. you´re there, that´s it, you´re the best, nothing to improve.

    instead if you´re humble, know that you can always learn from others, that you don´t have it all down, you´ll grow. you´ll be better.

    never succeed. just keep trying.

  • adam casey says:

    I think Howie Schwartz is a Guru that is super modest

  • Brian Solis says:

    Todd, you my friend, are an inspiration. I’m thankful that I can call you a friend. And, WE ARE all thankful that you share your insights and experience with us. It helps us grow together.

    Chris, I need another referral for someone to help with the pants BTW. Had to let go of the last person – not fast enough. Thanks! ;)

  • Actually Harvard Business School rejected me back in 1989 which was the best thing that could have happened to me for my career…

    Please add to the list Paul Gillin and David Henderson.

    One more thing. Todd, dude, you’re a guru. Get over it.

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    The value of modesty, from @tdefren. Doesn’t surprise me about some of these fine folks. [link to post]

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  • Biana says:

    I agree with DMS. I once dragged my nervous self to a tweet-up at a random San Francisco bar I’d never been to with people I’d never met just to meet this “Todd Defren” guy everyone kept talking about. You are most certainly a guru and a gracious one at that.

  • Marc Meyer says:

    Todd, this post struck such a nerve for me. It caused me to step back and realize that some of the things I’ve said earlier in the week were not of someone who was willing to help, and share, and collaborate, but of someone who was getting tired and worn down by people who genuinely want to learn and grow and live and earn and just “be” better at what they do.

    It’s amazing where you can find “it” sometimes. Call it wisdom, or enlightenment or whatever but As I’ve said, sometimes it’s right under your nose and you don’t even know it. Sort of like all of you guys. You’re right here. Accessible and with zero ego..just passion.

    I digress though. We don’t need pants in Florida…just shorts, like today..Sorry, Had to segue’ to the weather somehow. Great Post Todd, Thankyou.

  • Rohit says:

    Todd,
    As a fellow blogger you know that every week there seems to be a new list that someone emails us about to let us know they included our name or blog URL or post. I can honestly say that this is the one list I’ve been included on in the past year that I’m most proud to be part of.

    Thanks.

    R

  • Kami Huyse says:

    Something I have learned.

    When I was 16 I knew everything (sound familiar?). But the older I have gotten, the more I realize how very little I know.

    Thanks for always keeping it real.



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